“Love, actually.”

When you say “I love you” what do you mean, exactly?  Hopefully you don’t mean, “I need you in my life.”

Think about why you say “I love you” to your family and friends.  You might be surprised.

The issue with love being an object of need, is that typically, you are going to be outsourcing roles that really you should be performing for yourself.  Security.  Lonesomeness.  etc.  If you lose your object of love, or if they forsake you, then where are you?  And since all things that we need emotionally, are available as internal resources, it is better to take the time to internalize these functions than outsource them to others.

So look at your relationships and see what kind of love you have.  I’ll give you my definition of what love actually is in late March.

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