“Feel your pain.”

None of us have any issues feeling those good emotions that come with life, like happiness, or joy, but when negative emotions such as pain, guilt, sadness, etc. come we often try to not deal with them and push them away or suppress them.

The problem with that approach is that suppressed emotions are like kickboards that you push underwater at the pool, as soon as you let you, they come shooting up, and the entire time you have to spend emotional energy to keep them down.

So a friend mentioned that a better approach is the accept the pain as it comes.  Really feel the pain, and hate it that you have to go through it, but understand that it is part of life, and tell yourself that (hopefully) things will get better soon.  But don’t ignore it or push it away to deal with later.

They tell a story of Rabbi Nachman of Breslav that he would go out into the forest and scream at the top of his lungs.  Sometimes we need to scream, and if we do, find a place to scream, but don’t hold it in!  Sometimes we need to cry, so cry like a baby, but don’t hold it in, let the tears flow like water.

When pain comes, feel your pain.


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