You know who loses when you bear a grudge? You.
After all, you are the one who has to carry it around.
The other person, they are just fine. Living life, and not really caring that they made you angry – since if they cared, they would have figured out a way to appease you.
So the loser, when you are bearing a grudge is really you, who has to walk around with all that negativity in your heart towards someone else.
You see, I think it takes work to keep a grudge. You have to keep reminding yourself the bad thing that the person did to you, then get all emotional, and keep thinking about how much you hate the other person.
It’s much simpler to let go. Release the grudge, and just accept the other person as an imperfect person, just like you (although perhaps in different imperfect ways!), struggling through life, making their way, and just trying to succeed in a turbulent world.
In fact, if you think about it, even the saying “Don’t bear a grudge” uses the work “bear” which means to carry. So don’t bear a grudge, put it down, and move on.
P.S. I am not talking about if someone is still hurting you thought their ongoing actions. Then you aren’t bearing a grudge, rather, angry at them as they are now. That’s healthy. Although, how you express it might not be, but that’s a post for another day. Perhaps tomorrow!