I just learned this lesson, and I have to say, it’s by far the most valuable thing I have learned in the past few years. If you think about it, our actions are the physical manifestation of the conclusions of very complex thought processes. So if we want to understand the underpinnings of why we do what we do, we can simply ask ourself, “Why exactly did I do that?!?”. (I have found that this exercise works best with pen and paper and allowing for a free flowing question and answer style dialogue.) In asking and then answering the question of why, you will be forced to reverse engineer your thoughts, emotions, and assumptions that got to you the outcome of whatever action you chose – and bring you closer than you have ever been to your core self.