Interestingly, those people that I know that have worked through what they really want in a spouse usually end up with a list that looks pretty much like who they are in base characteristics.
So why is it that people often feel that opposites attract?
I’ll give you my take on it. 🙂
It’s pretty simple actually. When we are attracted to our opposite, what we are really saying is that we are unhappy about an aspect of ourselves. So instead of doing the healthy thing, and telling ourselves that this aspect is achievable, and we can become like the person we want to be, we take the easy way out, and bring someone into our life so we can live vicariously through them.
So if we want to figure out those areas where we ourselves feel restricted, look at those areas that we are attracted to in other people – or that attracted us to our spouse. In doing so, we can see those areas that we are currently suppressing our natural desires, probably due to fear of some sort, and where if we can find additional happiness by making some brave changes in our lives by living the life WE want to live, and not the life we are living.