“In dating, there is no right way.”

I get all kinds of relationship advice.  Much of which is contradictory.

“Chill, go with the flow, and don’t think about it too much.” vs “**** or get of the pot.”

“If you are into her you’ll feel it.”  vs “Emotions take time to grow.”

“A relationship should be easy.” vs “A relationship takes work.”

I could go on and on, but for the sake of brevity, I won’t.

In dating there is typically no definitive”right way”.  There is only a way that works for both parties, and a way that doesn’t work for both parties.

Having said that, there is one thing that is of utmost importance, one right way. Clearly communicating when something is bothering you in about your relationship, ideally detached from the underlying emotion.

It is only by doing this that we can avoid the traps that come from miscommunication due to assumptions and projections that the other party makes about things that negatively impact the relationship.

In fact, if we don’t choose to do this, I would argue that there is no relationship.  Rather, two scared people sitting across the table from each other.

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