“Where are all the nice guys?”

I look back on the past 18 years as I have stepped into the “real world” and realize what I have lost from the perspective of just being a nice guy.

I used to be a really nice guy. The kind of guy that would stand for anyone to let them have the last seat.  The kind of guy that would drop everything to help a stranger move.  That kind of guy.  I don’t think people really got pissed at me back then, other than that bitter feeling of “why is he such a nice guy, what’s wrong with him?”

I’m not really that nice anymore, and I look back and bemoan what happened to me.

When did I become so focused on the rat race, that I lost sight that the only place we are racing to is the grave? When did I lose focus on the fact that life was about relationships and not about money?  When did I start putting success on a petistal, and knock down niceness?

Honestly, I’m not sure, but I can tell you that this topic is going to be a focus for me for the rest of the year, so I can get back on track.

(Before I get a bunch of emails – well probably two, if history is any predictor – saying, “Josh you are such a nice guy, I don’t know what you are talking about.”  Please remember that this is all from my perspective, and knowledge of who I could be – and have been at times in my life.  The fact that I may – or may not be – nicer than the general population, doesn’t change my vision of my personal potential.  Plus I may just be nice to you.)

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